Grocery Budget Breakdown

Life has changed a lot in the past few years, and so has my grocery budget.  I have tried so much to reach the budget of $400 for groceries, only to fail time and time again. I have decided that no matter where I'm buying food, that's just not enough.  I have also found that I can make my budget work better with a little more wiggle room.  I have to be realistic.  We are a family of 5, and eating healthy is one of our priorities. This means we rarely eat out (maybe 2-3 times a month).  I also desire to use natural products as much as possible, but sometimes these products have to come from Trader Joe's... which means I really don't know how natural they are... I just trust Trader Joe's.  

Now, with that disclaimer, our current grocery budget is still only $500.  For some, this may be a lot and for some, this may be nothing.  This is what is realistic and works for our family.  There will be months when side work is slim and we will have to lower that... that will be realistic for those months.  But our goal will be to never exceed this amount (even when we have more money in side work that month... the excess goes to savings or to pay down bills).  We also may have to increase our budget if/when our stock of food dwindles (though I typically keep pretty stocked).

This comes out to about $250 every two weeks for groceries (this is when my hubby gets paid).

Here is the breakdown:

Local, raw, organic, grass-fed milk: $44 ($42 + $2 for ice).  I get 6 gallons a month for this amount, or 3 gallons every 2 weeks.  This milk is absolutely fabulous.  I can't stand store-bought milk after buying this for a while.

Local, grass-fed, organic meat and egg co-op: $100-120 (all meats including chicken, beef, pork and eggs... the co-op I'm in allows a 20% discount off of amazing meat!)

Produce co-op (either not local or local, depending if I use Bountiful Baskets or Greenling that 2 weeks): $37 (non-organic)-57 (organic)-76 (organic/local)
Once the Farmer's Market is back, I probably won't use a co-op for produce (I'll spend that money + some of the Trader Joe's money at the Farmer's market and only get produce there).

Costco, Trader Joe's, and Walmart (for a few items) as well as any online shopping: Whatever is left over (anywhere from $260-310).
This includes everything else... other foods, natural personal care products, cleaners, and detergents, and whole foods vitamins and cod liver oil.
We don't buy these items every month, but these are items that we buy at these places.  Right now, we are set on a lot of this...  If I order something, I try to buy multiples of that item so that I don't have to order again that month.  I am set from online ordering for a while.

• Vitacost or Swanson (depending on what I need and the sales at the times)- Almond flour, coconut flour, sucanat, other gluten free foods (oats, grits, flours, etc), whole foods vitamins, cod liver oil, shampoo/conditioner, deodorant, body wash 
• Amazon and Young Living Essential Oils- Elderberries and essential oils
• Honest Company- Cleaners and detergents mostly... I order from them about every other month.
• Costco- Oils (Extra-virgin olive, Grapeseed, and Coconut), seasonings and spices, organic apple sauce, Greek yogurt, Kerrygold butter (grass-fed), hummus, snacks (Veggie Straws, Hummus chips, etc), Tillamook cheese (and Tillamoos), gluten free foods (quinoa pasta, crackers, bread, flour), canned organic black beans, canned organic tomato products (diced, sauce, and paste), organic maple, raw/local honey, organic coffee, organic quinoa, organic brown rice, nitrate free bacon... this list could go on and on.
• Walmart- yes... the only things I buy here are Greek gods Greek yogurt (for Robert), Chobani Greek yogurt tubes (for the boys), Earth Balance Soy Free butter (for Karis), Hormel naturals lunch meats (no antibiotic/no hormone/nitrate free), and the occasional treat (yes, I like to buy Oreos sometimes). The only reason I even buy these items here is because Walmart is down the road and these items are cheaper than anywhere else (by a lot).  I generally hate Walmart, but I don't have to go very often.
• Trader Joe's- everything else.  Including, but not limited to the rest of my produce, half and half, raw sugar (for coffee), coconut sugar, coffee (when I have less in this area of my budget that month), organic whole wheat and brown rice pastas, pasta sauce (when I don't feel like making it), raw cheddar, shredded cheddar or mozzarella, nuts and seeds (almonds, cashews, flaxseed, chia seed, pumpkin and sunflower seeds), cereals (we don't buy a lot, but we buy them here when we do), toilet paper, shampoo/conditioner, body wash, gluten free foods, and some snacks.  It really just depends on what we need.

Like I said, we don't buy all of these items every month.  In fact right now, we're still doing fine with most non-fresh-food items :-).  I buy a little here, a little there, and it works great :-).

It seems complicated, but it's really not.  I run and get my milk after school every other Friday.  It takes an extra 15 minutes out of my day (and is well worth it to me).  I pick up my meat the opposite weeks on Thursday evening.  The pick up is at a local high school.  Again, takes maybe an additional 15 minutes.  The other shopping is every 2 weeks at Trader Joe's and maybe every 2-3 weeks to Walmart (not the same weeks as TJ's).  I go to Costco about once a month.  Ordering online is easy for many reasons and right now I have been ordering from Greenling for produce since I only needed fresh food items, so that makes it easy.  I'll just take it one pay day at a time :-).   

One thing that I love about Greenling is that they provide recipes to use the produce that you get, so half of my meal planning is done! :-)

Now that I have shared everything with you... what does YOUR budget look like?  If it is not where you want it, how can you make it what you want?  Maybe some more planning?  More homemade foods?  If it is lower and you are able to buy nutritious foods, I want to know your secret!  

Knocking the Wall Down

It started out rough, it got worse, and it ended with exhaustion.  Despite the fact that it was so difficult, a lot of good, hard work happened.  And despite the fact that I was exhausted last night, I was more at peace than I have been for a while.

Yesterday was my counseling day.  I had counseling with Robert, then by myself.  Then, yesterday evening I had Celebrate Recovery.  That's 4 hours of hard work, on top of the work that I did on my own at home.

I cried a LOT.  It's been a long time since I did that.  There's healing in tears.  There's healing in honesty. There's healing in hard work.

I have been building this wall of condemnation and expectation for years and years.  The words I use about myself have just been the cement that holds the wall together.

One of the things that my counselor has been working with me on is the words I use.  She reminds me that words matter.

The words that are red flags are: should, never, and always.  If I hear myself saying these words, I need to re-word the sentence.  They bring condemnation and are not helpful.  Finding scripture to combat the lies is helpful.

I constantly say that I am always anxious, I will never get better, and I should do this, this, and this.  Those words just put cement, sheet rock, and stucco on the walls that I have built up.

It's time to knock the wall down.

Something important that I've realized through the hard work is that it has taken years to build the wall, so it will take a while to knock the wall down.  I need to have a lot of self-compassion through this process and realize that I will have rough days.  That's normal.

We talked about contentment.  That life has seasons.  This is just the season of life that I'm in right now; that doesn't mean it will always be this way.  While I can't work right now, that doesn't mean I won't be able to again.  I need to think of things in life as front burner and back burner.  Right now, working needs to be on the back burner because I can only fit a few things on the front burner.  To operate more on the short-term (this week), but plan enough in the future to stay motivated.

So the things that I'm working on to knock that wall down are: pay attention to my red flag words and re-word them to be more helpful, remember to have self-compassion when I have a rough day and that it takes time to knock the wall down, be content in this season of life.

Another really important thing is working to stop ruminating on my anxiety.  The more I think about it and think about how I can make it better, the more anxious I get.  We talked about things that I can do in order to not just be home alone, thinking all the time.  That I need to compartmentalize things... work on my anxiety when it's the right time, but other than that, work on something else.  I do have homework (for counseling and Celebrate Recovery), but when it's not time to work on things, be more mindful of what I am in the middle of.  Engage with my husband and kids (be careful to not be in my mind, thinking too much), spend time with friends, maybe go to a woman's Bible study, and when I am home alone and working on something, put on music and sing along... maybe listen to fiction books on CD.  Ruminating on my anxiety makes it worse, working on my anxiety helps me heal.  They are two different things.  So, I am working on compartmentalizing it.

One piece of cement at a time.  One brick at a time.  One step at a time.  One minute at a time.

The wall will eventually be knocked down.

A Lot of Work

I woke up this morning after having a panic attack in a dream (and not sleeping much).  I felt physically like I had just had one in real life.  I guess they're all the same... whether in a dream or real life.

It's been a hard road... a real rough journey.  Some days I feel okay, but the anxiety never really leaves me. And the feeling that it's something that I need to do or am doing never leaves me either.  I also feel like I am constantly affecting my family.  I hate it.  Hate it more than anyone will ever know.  I'm tired of it always weighing me down, and I'm tired of not being able to live a normal life because of it.

I realized yesterday that I haven't been stable for a long, long time.  I have been so unreliable over the years. And it's been because of being sick.

There have been times that I thought I was "better," but it was just a high moment.  I haven't been stable for more than a month at a time since I can remember.  That's why I have started jobs, only to have to leave... so many times.  I keep thinking I'm "better," then it hits hard and I can't function.

I think this time I'm realizing that I have a lot of work ahead of me still.

The amount of anxiety that I deal with isn't from just one thing, it's from a combination of things.  And until I figure out what that combination is, I will probably not be stable.

I'm so thankful for a supportive husband, but he's feeling the weight too.  And my kids feel it.  Levi was crying a bunch this morning, and I realized it was every time I walked out of the room.  You see, I've been so focused on getting better that sometimes my kids don't get the affection that they need.  I gave him a big hug and kiss and it helped him.  He just needed my affection (something that I don't give out very easily these days).

I won't be able to work a regular job until I can get stable.  This is hard for me.  I keep trying to find a job only to realize that God isn't opening those doors.  I feel like I don't know what to do with myself through the days (I'm not used to being alone so much), but God is allowing me so much time to work on myself, so I need to be doing that.  I have a lot of options for doing this, but I often push the work away because it's so hard.

A few things that I need to do... finish my Celebrate Recovery homework for the week (especially my letter to God that is due on Saturday), and write a letter to Joey (not looking forward to this).

Until next time...

Up to the Mountain

This video is absolutely amazing.  I realize it is a cover, but this is the best rendition of this song that I've seen.

The lyrics are so powerful.  This is where I feel like I am in my life right now.

I feel like I can write nothing that compares with the lyrics right now, so enjoy.

"Up to the Mountain"

I went up to the mountain
Because you asked me to
Up over the clouds
To where the sky was blue
I could see all around me
Everywhere
I could see all around me
Everywhere

Sometimes I feel like
I've never been nothing but tired
And I'll be walking
Till the day I expire
Sometimes I lay down
No more can I do
But then I go on again
Because you ask me to

Some days I look down
Afraid I will fall
And though the sun shines
I see nothing at all
Then I hear your sweet voice, oh
Oh, come and then go, come and then go
Telling me softly
You love me so

The peaceful valley
Just over the mountain
The peaceful valley
Few come to know
I may never get there
Ever in this lifetime
But sooner or later
It's there I will go
Sooner or later
It's there I will go

Going Gluten Free

Well, the girls in the house are going gluten free.

After being so sad for Karis that she was sick again, I mentioned to the doctor that I wonder if she has some sort of allergy that is keeping her sick all the time.  I asked if we could do an allergy blood test.  He told me that while it is completely up to me, the test often comes back saying that people have more allergies than they do, so people start eliminating things that aren't necessary.  Plus, it doesn't show any intolerances.

He told me that really the best way to find out if certain foods are an issue is to eliminate them completely, 100% from the diet.  We have done that with dairy, and her digestion is better (she used to have accidents without even knowing it because of chronic constipation), but she still has a lot of symptoms of gluten intolerance.  In fact, I have done quite a bit of research the past few days and realize that she experiences about 7 of the symptoms out of the 10 most common.  That's a really good argument for a gluten intolerance.

I read this article yesterday, and it is a good breakdown of what I have seen in my research: 10 Signs Your Kid is Gluten Intolerant.

Karis' symptoms are: digestive issues, fatigue and brain fog, dark circles under her eyes, frequent colds (and strep, and sinus infections), runny nose that doesn't clear up (and cough), headaches, "mood issues" (mostly the inability to concentrate, and we have been considering ADD).

I have about 4 of the symptoms myself, and the biggest is my anxiety.  I wonder if it has anything to do with gluten.

The only way to really find out is by eliminating :-).

We're going to eliminate for about a month and do a food/symptoms log.  I imagine that the further away we get from having gluten in our system, our symptoms should get better and better.  If not, then there's something else involved!

I'm adding in probiotics as well for a little while to aid in healing the gut.  We'll continue the cod liver oil and whole foods vitamins, as well as using oils for seasonal allergy symptoms.

Between oils and eliminating gluten, I'm hoping to have a healthier girl in a month or so!

I've honestly been wanting to do this for a long time.  It took me hearing from the doctor to try eliminating to begin researching.  Not sure why... I typically don't wait for the doctor to tell me before doing things.  But I guess this one is so hard that I didn't want to :-).

Perfectionism, Part 2: Growing Where I'm Planted

I wrote yesterday how a lot of my anxiety comes from my perfectionism.  It's so interesting to see how perfectionism creeps into my heart and mind without me even realizing it.  I started feeling anxious again this morning and realized it was because of feeling imperfect.

Doing things the "right way" is every where.  From books to blog posts to Facebook.  It's so easy to think that what I'm doing is "not enough" just about 24/7.

There are blog posts that are circulating on Facebook right now that are good and helpful for some, but for me, it just reminds me of what I feel I should be doing...

I was reading a book the other day (I won't mention which one), and I felt immediate guilt for messing up in the area of finances.  So much of the time, books and blogs just make me feel even more like I need to be perfect.

I just feel like I'm never enough.

What is enough?

How do I know if I am enough?

I just am.  God has created me the way that I am for a reason and a purpose.  Trying to be perfect in every area just robs me of the joy that He has given me by His Spirit.

Where is the line between striving for perfection and striving for His will?  I'm not sure yet.  I know that He doesn't want me to waste money, to be in debt, to eat horribly, to yell at my kids, to be online too much and wasting time, to be a bad steward of the things He has given me, but when striving for good things comes before Him, then it's too much.

Today, I strive for balance.  I'm not perfect and I never will be.  I just want to live life and let little things go. I want to enjoy the little things and not worry about everything.  I'm working on it.  I know that God will bring me to this point one day; I can feel it.  He wants me to be mentally healthy.  He wants me to have joy.  He doesn't want me to focus on things that aren't supposed to be focused on.

Today, I won't worry about a semi-messy house, allowing my kids to just relax, financial things that are out of my control (and even things that are in my control), getting side jobs, what may or may not happen in the fall with part time jobs, a little higher numbers on the scale, all that I feel I need to get done, the inability to get everything done that I would like to get done, and I will focus on God's truth.

THINK

What is true?  He loves me right where I am.  He loves you right where you are.  I don't have to change. You don't have to change.
What is helpful?  Focusing on things other than Him is not helpful.  Focusing on being perfect in any area is not helpful. Focusing on Him and just living is helpful.
What is inspiring?  Helping others with what I've learned through my illness.
What is necessary?  Just living life... even though that means mess much of the time
What is kind?  Kind to myself- just being okay with who I am today.  Not expecting myself to be "better" or "different."  Kind to others- allowing God to use me to bless others.

I can learn to not be anxious about everything.  I can learn to just live and enjoy life.  I just have to do it, and trust that He will help me along the way.

I am learning to grow where I'm planted, even if the conditions aren't perfect.

Perfectionism

This afternoon, I decided to get out of the house because of some anxiety.  I went to Starbucks and sat and worked on my Celebrate Recovery workbook.

Through the work that I've been doing, especially today, I've come to some conclusions that I've known for a while, but I'm understanding them on a deeper level.

Perfectionism is at the heart of most of my anxiety.  

Perfectionism is at the heart of every extreme. 

Perfectionism gives me a false sense of control, and when I realize I'm not in control, it causes anxiety.
Perfectionism causes a lot of discontent.

Perfectionism is at the heart of my people pleasing.

As soon as I clean the house, the kids mess it up, and I'm anxious.

If I mess up as a parent (or think I'm messing up), I'm anxious.

If I feel like I'm a bad wife, I'm anxious.

When I know (or think) that someone isn't pleased by something I've said or done, I'm anxious.

When I "mess up" with my eating, I give up.  When I'm tired of eating badly, I try to eat perfectly and am anxious.

When I spend money, I'm anxious.  

When I worry that we might be out of money in a few months (since I'm not working anymore), I fear it's my fault, and I'm anxious.

I end up spending money to cope with my anxiety, and it makes me more anxious.

I spend too much time online, so I'm anxious.

Since it makes me anxious to spend too much time online, I get off the internet completely, and I'm anxious. 

After just a few days of being off, I get back on because I can't handle being off completely, and I'm anxious because of what people may think.

Extremes.  Control.  People pleasing.  Discontent. ---> Perfectionism

I have known that perfectionism has been the root of most of my anxiety, but I have been in denial about it.  I have been in denial that this area of my life can change.  I have struggled so long that I have just lived in it.  

How can it change?  I don't know yet.  I'm only at the beginning.  But just admitting what the issue is, and asking God to take it from me is a huge first step.   

My goal right now is that every time I feel anxious, I'm going to ask myself if perfectionism is at the root and see if I am able to combat that with reality.  

I'll use my THINK questions to help me combat my thoughts:

T- is it true?

H- is it helpful?

I- is it inspiring?

N- is it necessary?

K- is it kind?

Most of the perfectionism that I have for myself I wouldn't have for anyone else, so I will try to remember that as I process through my thoughts.

My goal in this is to not be focused so much on being perfect in these areas, but just learn to live life.

Another thing I'm going to try to do is focus less on doing things perfectly (on Facebook and my blog) and post more about real life.  Really show what life looks like... mess and all.

Here I go!  

Natural Remedies and Supplements

Natural Remedies

I'm still in the process of learning about natural remedies, and I still use some medicine, but I am on my way to using more and more natural remedies.  So far, I have seen the benefits of using them vs. conventional medicine for some things.

Elderberry Syrup

Why would I use Elderberry Syrup? 

It strengthens the immune system.  It shortens the length of the flu.  It can prevent the flu.  It is rich in antioxidants.  It is an anti-inflammatory.  It is an anti-viral.  It is a great cough syrup.  

I made some recently and have used it a lot the past few days as Karis has been sick.  I believe that between this and essential oils, I was able to shorten the duration of whatever illness she has had.

Here's my recipe (based on a recipe that I found on Amazon.com in the reviews of the Elderberries):

1/4 cup dried elderberries

1 1/2 cups water

1/2 cup raw honey

1 tsp cinnamon

1 tsp ginger

Place berries, water, and spices in a saucepan.  Bring to a boil.  Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes. Strain the mixture.  Stir in honey.  Syrup can be stored in the refrigerator for 2-3 months.

Essential Oils

I have been selling Young Living Essential oils for a month or so, and I'm just getting into them.  

I recently purchased the Essential Oils Desk Reference thanks to an Amazon gift card, and I am learning SO much about them.  

I will update as I learn more, but this is the little bit that I've learned so far (some I have used, some I haven't):

Peace and Calming- works the best for my anxiety.  Can be used for depression, anxiety, stress, and insomnia.

Thieves- is a natural antibacterial, antiviral, and antiseptic.  I use this for cleaning and for illness. 

Lemon- energizes body and mind and supports a healthy immune system. I use this in my water.  It makes my water taste great. 

Lavender- great for healthy skin, to calm a stressed mind, and used in many "recipes" for different illnesses.  I use this on my wrists, often.  It smells good (as a perfume) and helps with my moods.

Peppermint- great for boosting the mood and energizing the body and mind.  Helps aid in normal digestion. Can be used for respiratory function (good for someone who has a cough).  

Valor- helps with mood, anxiety, and negative emotions; also helps with physical pain

PanAway- provides relief from tension, stressed muscles, and other painful discomforts

Purification- purifies the air of odors, helps soothe dry skin;  disinfects cuts, scrapes, and bites

Frankincense- great for depression, respiratory infections, inflammation, tense muscles, and immune system

RC- gives relief from colds, bronchitis, sore throats, sinus infections, cough, and congestion

Oregano- antiviral, anti-fungal, anti-parasitic, anti-inflammatory; great for immune system and digestive problems

If you're interested in buying oils or becoming a member, visit my Young Living Website for more info!

Supplements

Fish Oil

I use Cod Liver oil because it is the best source of Omega-3's than other sources of fish.  When I can afford it, I prefer to use Fermented Cod Liver Oil sold by Green Pastures.  Since this is so expensive, I typically buy Garden of Life Cod Liver Oil for the kids and Swanson Vitamins Cod Liver Oil for myself and Robert. I know it's best to use liquid, but no one in our home can stomach it :-).  

Whole Foods Vitamins

I have been using Garden of Life Raw Women's vitamins and recently decided to buy vitamins that both Robert and I can use... so I bought Garden of Life Vitamin Code Family vitamins.  These vitamins are amazing because they contain all the necessary nutrients and the source is food... raw food.  They also contain probiotics and enzymes.  Eventually, Karis will be able to take these.  She can't swallow a pill quite that large, yet!

The kids take Garden of Life Vitamin Code Kids.

Probiotics

I don't always use probiotics, but there are times in which I think they are very important and I use Garden of Life, yet again!  I mainly use them for the kids.  Right now, I'm planning on using them for Karis because her digestion is off and she has been having so many allergy problems and a low immune system.  I'm taking her off of gluten (in addition to the dairy that she can't have) and starting probiotics.

Supplements in my smoothies

I use chia seed, hemp seed, and spirulina at times in my morning green smoothies to add protein and/or other nutrients.  

I use Trader Joe's chia and flax seeds.  

I use Manitoba Harvest Hemp Hearts (from Costco)

And Nutrex Pure Hawaiian Spirunlina Pacifica powder

For Those Called According to His Purpose

I've been struggling to write lately, and I'm not exactly sure why.  I always have a lot of thoughts in my head, but lately I haven't known how to put those thoughts together.  On one hand, life is so good and I feel that I'm right where I'm supposed to be, on the other hand, I'm sad... sad about the loss of a dream.

I woke up this morning at 4:30 because of a dream that was crying in.  I was crying because I was having to explain why I'm not teaching anymore.  This is one of the reasons why I don't show up at school more to have lunch with the kids and volunteer.  It's really hard to explain why I'm not teaching anymore.  In fact, to most people, I just tell them that it is health related.  They then say that I have to do what's best for me, or they look at me like I'm crazy.

I know in my head that I have to do what's best for me.  I know in my head that I really didn't have a choice... my doctors, counselors, and husband all thought that I wouldn't really get better if I was teaching full time.  I know in my head that teaching full time just isn't for me right now.  But my heart tells me other things.  In my heart, I gave up my dream position.  Again.  And I'm worried that I will never again be able to teach full time.

I just go back to this verse... "...for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything." 1 John 3:20

God knew that this was going to happen, He isn't surprised by it, and He has a plan for it.  That's truth.  I can't allow my heart to condemn me by telling me that I "gave up" something that He knew I would have to "give up."  I can't let my heart condemn me by telling me that I will never be able to work full time again.  It's all a matter of letting go and trusting Him with all of this.  He has a plan that is greater than anything I could ask or imagine, and I have to trust that.

I don't understand it, but there's a reason why I got the position at this school, in this district, only to have to resign.  He knows why.  I don't.  But I can trust that He has a perfectly good reason for it.

There are a lot of things that I truly don't understand right now, but I am trying to trust that He will show us the meaning behind it all one day.

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28

It's really all about Him anyway.  His glory.  His purpose.

Day Hike with the Family

Karis and Robert were supposed to go backpacking yesterday through tomorrow, and it didn't work out. So last night we let the kids camp in the living room (they did great!), and today we went hiking.  We went to a place that we will definitely go back to.

Being in the city, it is definitely hard to find a place to hike.  We went to a place called Arbor Hills Nature Preserve.  The Preserve has several miles of trail, and it is definitely a great place to go for a day hike.  The only complaint that I have is that there are some apartment complexes built right up against it so for part of the trail, our view was apartment complexes.  It was only for part of the hike, though, so I can't complain too much.

We hiked about 3 miles total, and the kids did great.  Towards the end, Levi kept wanting to lay down on the grass to take a nap ;-).  

He also kept stopping to make "a home for the ants."  What a goof.  (notice the Christmas socks)

The weather was perfect and the hike was just what I needed.  I got some vitamin D, much needed exercise, and family time.  

Ethan enjoyed being a tree hugger.  (notice the plaid shorts AND shirt...)

Kids enjoyed snack break.  They wanted to have snack break a few more times...

Here are a few pictures of the trail:

I took a lot of pics :-).

Problem solving the fight of who gets to lead- Ethan decided that they should both lead :-).

Armadillo hole

One Second at a Time

I went to the doc this morning (my next appointment wasn't scheduled for another two weeks but they were able to fit me in).  My doc is concerned about the amount of anxiety that I have been having (that was very obvious to her).  Another concern that she has is that I have gained 10 pounds in about 3-4 weeks.  This is very high weight gain and is very much contributed to a medication that I'm taking.  She's taking me off of this medication because of that and many other side effects.  I also think that this medication is causing some of this extra anxiety.  

She reminded me that much of my anxiety can also be attributed to the intense therapy and recovery that I'm working on through my counselor and Celebrate Recovery.  It's not uncommon to have more anxiety while in the process, but it's worth it in the end.  Sometimes it just gets worse before it gets better.  I asked her if it was worth it to do all of this work, and she believes that it is.  We just have to work on treating the anxiety that has increased while I work through things.  

Today, I'm okay.  I am hopeful with the changes in meds and I know that it'll all work out in the end... it just may be a long process.  I'm thankful that I am not working right now and have the time to work through things.  I'm working on some side jobs, but it's just enough to keep me somewhat busy without being too busy.  

Another thing that my doctor told me to do is make sure I'm in the sun a lot.  Even if I just go for a walk, read a book, or even nap in the sun, be in the sun.  It makes a huge difference, especially this time of year.  I will do my best :-).  I love being outdoors, but I haven't had much desire lately to do anything.  I'm hoping my meds will help me enough to get outside and do things that are best for me.  I also really need to be working out.  Gaining 10 pounds came as a shock and now I need to work on getting that back off!  Yuck.

One day at a time.  One hour at a time.  One minute at a time.  One second at a time.

I'll Just Keep Fighting

Yesterday, after my run, I felt so good mentally, emotionally, and physically.  A few hours later, I was struggling through a panic attack.  Not even sure what caused it... it just happened.

I absolutely despise anxiety, and some days I don't know if I can keep fighting it.  Anxiety affects not only me, but my relationships as well.

If I could snap my fingers and make anxiety go away, I would.  That's the problem, though.  I am powerless to make it go away.  Completely, 100% powerless.

I can fight it with prayer, reading my Bible, exercise, eating healthy, breathing techniques, yoga, writing, talking it out, counseling, medication, and even essential oils... and.  it's. still. there.  I fight it all day, every day. It's exhausting.

Some days, after fighting so hard, I feel hopeless.  I can go from feeling hopeful to hopeless in less than a day.  Sad, isn't it?  

Today, that deep feeling of anxiety is there full on, and I have to keep going.  I have no choice.  I have to pick the kids up in a few hours, and I have to take care of things.

Often, people tell me to "just let go."  I try.  I really do.  I don't choose this.  I don't like it at all.  In fact, I hate it.  If I let go, I sink into depression.  In fact, some days I feel like I'm sinking again despite all of the work that I do and the fighting that I do.

All I can do is just keep fighting.

Put One Foot in Front of the Other

The view of my running path this morning.

I have so many things on my mind that I'm not even sure where to begin, yet all I can hear in the back of my mind is "put one foot in front of the other."  

It's so easy to get bogged down.  With my thoughts.  I have too many.  So many that my thoughts are often what cause my anxiety.  The "what ifs" and "only ifs" and "whys" and "ughs."  I just cannot let go so much of the time.  I cause my own anxiety by my perfectionism and lack of boundaries and codependency.  I often cause my own anxiety because I want to be able to do things in a certain way, and when I can't (because no one can), I shut down.

This morning, I woke up with severe anxiety.  I had a rough night of sleep, tossing and turning, and several stressful dreams.  I woke up with the same anxiety that I felt in my dreams.  Robert suggested going running... My immediate though most days is "I don't wanna."  I realized this morning that I really struggle with wanting to because I feel that I will fail.  I don't want to start because I'm afraid I won't keep going.  I mean, that is what has happened in the past.  

Yet I cannot help but remember just how good I felt when I was consistent with running and eating well (in a balanced way).  

The whole time I ran (well, walked/jogged), I was constantly reminded of how good things were when I was consistent with this.  

Who cares that I'm having to start all over.  It felt so good just getting out and being active again.  Putting one foot in front of the other.  Getting in 3 miles of walking/jogging, even though much of that was walking.  Who cares?  I got out there.  I was active for about 35-40 minutes.  It felt so good.  Then I came home and had a yummy, nourishing green smoothie for breakfast.  

My goal today is to put one foot in front of the other.  To take one day at a time.  To make it a goal to be more active and to eat healthier for the sake of my mental/emotional/physical health.  To not care how much I weigh, but to care how I feel.  To pick myself back up when I fail and don't get out there to exercise or when I eat something I "shouldn't."  It's all about balance any way.  I need to be okay with whatever decision I make.  

Today I have decided to be intentional about my mental health.  To be intentional about being healthy.  To not allow my diagnosis of severe anxiety and depression to be my identity, but to put one foot in front of the other and allow myself to feel better.  It's a decision that I have to make.  I cannot and will not bow down to the things that I struggle with.  

Through Jesus, I have the strength to get through each day and to not bow down to my anxiety and depression.  Jesus is my hope and power.  He will help me do what I need to do to feel at peace and be able to serve Him wholeheartedly.

Because I have had great success with this in the past, I'm going to try out My Fitness Pal again to just be more mindful of what I'm putting in my mouth and how much I'm exercising.  It's a great way to keep myself accountable to being active and eating well.  I don't care so much about the calories that I eat, but WHAT I am putting in my mouth.  

Look me up on My Fitness Pal and we can keep each other accountable :-).  My screen name is mamacrosland!  

Until next time...

Whenever Our Heart Condemns Us...

"By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our heart before him; for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything."  1 John 3:19-20

Here's my heart Lord,

Here's my heart Lord,

Here's my heart Lord,

Speak what is true.

'Cause I am found, I am Yours

I am loved, I'm made pure

I have life, I can breathe

I am healed, I am free

'Cause You are strong, You are sure

You are life, You endure

You are good, always true

You are light breaking through.

Our heart condemns us continually, but we can trust that God will speak truth to our heart.  

I am working through some things in my Celebrate Recovery homework that are hard.  And it would be easy to sit on the things that I'm learning about myself.  But instead, I will listen to truth, and know that these things... these things that I am powerless to control on my own... are not ME.  

I refuse to allow my identity to be in my struggle, but in who I am in Him, and who He is.

I am found, His, loved, pure, healed, free.  He is strong, sure, life, endurance, good, true, and light.

This is the truth that I choose to believe today.